i work at a daycare and one of my students has been diagnosed with cancer.
i have never been in a situation where i have to work closely with a ticking bomb and constantly treat them like they’re going to be okay when they might not be
i’m heartbroken. he doesn’t deserve to be so ill. i don’t want him to die. i don’t know if he will. i want to make what may be his limited time left with me as fun and as happy as possible and i don’t want my depression to rub off on him or any of his friends. please, does anyone have any advice?
someone sent me this video and when i answered the ask tumblr ate it up? anyways. anon, i hope you see this; it shattered and soothed me dozens of different ways. cried the whole way if i’m honest. at the end of the day, all we could really do is love, and it’s hard to swallow how it will be both never be enough and mean everything to our loved one. Thank you for leading me to it.
my student will be undergoing treatment for six months and will likely not return to kindy until after he’s feeling much, much better (kindies are not the most hygienic of places and he will be vulnerable to diseases)
a family friend has set up a crowd-funding page for my student and his family. any amount will be a miracle and all reblogs will be humongous help
ait, so!! targetted by a bot in the comment section of one of my works on ao3 today, so i’m making my account private. basically, my profile won’t be visible without logging in to keep (hopefully most) AI training algorithms away from my writing. really sorry for the inconvenience. 🙇🏽♀️😓 FUCK AI
The above examples have been provided with the authors’ permission to demonstrate what these look like.
Basic rundown:
They are all 3 sentences long
Perfect grammar, capitalization, and punctuation
Like absolutely flawless English teacher-style writing with only a single exclamation mark, ever
No mentions whatsoever of character names, settings, situations, or anything that could be tied to the story
The usernames may be identical to people who exist on ao3, but the name is not clickable, and no profile is associated with it EXCEPT when you directly search for that name. What this means: the comments come from an unregistered (not logged in) reader, bots scrape the site for real usernames, attach that to the comment, and post
Please spread the word about this so authors can filter comments and report them accordingly
There has been some speculation about why this is happening at all, and the best guess is that this is a feature that AI-training story-scraping tools are implementing to try and make their browsing traffic look legitimate
what fresh hell is this?
would it be accurate to say the top comment is an example of a real user’s and the bottom one is not? it’s four sentences long but otherwise eerily similar to the descriptions above
Marchers in Pride parade on Capitol Hill, Seattle, June 27, 1993
This photo of the 1993 Pride parade shows a group of women, some wearing t-shirts printed with “I’m not a BOY,” carrying a banner reading “Women often mistaken for men in public restrooms.”
@littlestpersimmon (x) / @alaiganuza on ig (x) / cate mighell, eating mangoes / mayabhushan nagvenkar, indian mango / eve babitz / (x) / mandar marathe, mangoes (x) / joshua kadison / julia sent (x) / @dennisbhooper on twt (x) / @martina.dinatale on ig (x) / (x) / amir khusrau, he visits my town once a year / fernando amorsolo (x) / s e, mango (x)
wanda can’t die she has to be rejected by thessaly because thessaly still needs to be a bitch for the kindly ones to happen but then the storm comes and wanda having no choice attempts to do moon magic to save everyone and (this is not immediately shown) it fucking works because she is what she is but the apartment gets destroyed so they mistake georgie’s body for hers and buries that instead and barbie still draws a veil at the funeral to (initially unknown to the audience) feed the illusion that wanda’s dead so she will have absolutely no reason to come into contact with her family again and wanda emerges from the trees and crosses out her deadname with tacky flamingo herself and there’s a flashback of her wading through the rubble with barbie waking in her arms and she explains to the girls how she saved everyone and we see the cut of her powerful magic taking full and perfect effect and fox and hazel charge in for a weepy group hug and thessaly just very awkwardly watches them fuming from being proven wrong and alone and then it’s back to wanda and barbie riding off into the sunset and barbie still dreams of death but she wakes up and wanda’s still there and she realizes the part of wanda that died was the one that had always been scared and now wanda is freer than the cuckoo herself and they find an apartment to share with the lady who’s scared of dogs and they have dinner with rose’s family every sunday and babysit daniel and go to fox’s shows and are godmothers to alfie. also they kiss with tongue.
safety tips for victims of abuse that’ve helped me
safety plans are essential when dealing with abuse and although not everyone has the same level of situations, i make this post to share what i did that helped me get through and hopefully help you or even give you ideas.
while you are still living with your abuser(s) + preparing to leave:
get an envelope or folder that holds all of your important documents and items:
spare car keys
social security card
birth certificate
pay stubs
insurance cards
proof of pet care/ownership.
a usb with evidence of abuse, receipts of animal care (more info in respective categories below) *
look up trusted homeless shelters. write down the phone numbers and addresses. if you have a pet, there are shelters who support domestic violence victims and take pets in while you take care of yourself first. keep this paper in the envelope.
paperis important. your phone may be out of battery or when you’re far from home, you have no service/data.
note: dialing 911 is always free at pay phones
- prepare a bag for an emergency escape
keep the following items:
extra pants, shirt, undergarments for you and the children
toothbrush, toothpaste
cash (gas, food…)
chargers
medication for you and your companions
car keys, bus card
the papers with written resources we prepared beforehand.
the usb
if you have pets: water bottles, food in a carryon, collar, leash!
- keep your safety bag in an easy access place so you can grab it in a hurry. in a car, in the backyard, a friends or neighbors house, workplace, gym locker, etc. if this isn’t possible, don’t worry. getting out safely is much more important.
things to record for evidence of abuse:
photos of inflicted wounds
photos of items damaged by abuser
a journal where you wrote about your experiences
screenshots/saved text messages, voicemails, letters, voice recordings, emails of threats
if you were treated at a hospital for your injuries, keep a copy of those records.
*keep these on a usb or online drive so that it’s easily accessible for the police to have.
- tell someone you trust about what you’re going through. ask if their place is always opened to you in situations of distress. don’t be scared to ask for help especially when it comes to your safety. i was afraid to open up as well but once i did, i felt better because i was seen and felt secure. it was nonsense to feel that way. they will be really happy to help you.
- in situations where the abuser has a hot and cold, unpredictable behavior:
try to make sense of their abusive patterns and triggers. take notice of the signs so you can get yourself and others to safety.
make sure you develop coping skills that work for you, know where to be in the house, away from any stashed weapons.
avoid the kitchen, garage, backyard— any rooms where there are hard floors & table corners.
pitch in an idea to get a carpet in the main room just in case a violent situation occurs.
when you’re at home, take off any restrictive clothing & long, easy to reach jewelry so your abuser won’t use it to hurt you.
- when violence occurs,
protect yourself without fighting back. make yourself small. curl up into a ball, in a corner: put your head into your knees & arms, block your temples.
try your best to not run towards the children and animals as their next target will be them too.
create a code phase like “did you call earlier? i’m sorry i missed it.” or “i made your favorite. would you like some packed?” with a trusted neighbor if you need a hand calling for the police. try to make it look like you call them time to time in leisure so that it doesn’t seem off to your abuser(s).
- if you have left and your abuser is on your tail, dial the police and ask them to stay on call with you in case you need help.
- when escaping, try to be unpredictable; leave when your abuser least expects it
be sure to not leave any hints of where you will be going,
go to a place where they wont be likely to find you but is also a place where you feel safe and comfortable.
- if your abuser was arrested, ask if they will be held in custody + expected release date. give the police any information so they can make use of it for the release conditions. keep a copy of this information.
if you have animals:
abusers can also threaten your animal(s) to hold leverage over you & further prove that they’re in control. there’s a chance where you may have to prove ownership and care of the pet,
gather: bills and receipts (grooming, vet appointments, emergency visits) that you have paid for under your name, photos, videos of training, caregiving and place them on a USB or an online drive (google drive, email, etc) *
in this usb you can also have your resume, working permit, any other important things on your devices.
if it’s possible in your state, try to get your animals under your protection order.
read this article for more information on animal and family violence to help you out more.
if you have children:
create a code word with them so they know when to call for help. review this with them frequently in private so that they remember.
teach them how to use a phone and what number(s) to dial + what to say. for other contacts, keep a paper with the numbers in handy. again, review this procedure with them frequently.
make sure they know to keep the game/procedure between you and them!
tell them that it’s not their fault this is happening. educate them on why the behavior they receive is not right.
EXTRA TIPS
if you have a car, make sure you always have atleast a half tank of gas.
consider buying safety/medical alert alarms, defense kits, portable door locks, a security door alarm wedge for when you reach your temporary safe place or live alone.
find out ways you can pull out of the driveway easily, make sure you aren’t blocked by any chance.
make use of the speed dial options on your phone.
make it a habit to delete your browsing history of anything that will rise suspicions
if you find this post helpful, review this post frequently so you can remember the information and be well prepared and bookmark/print this post and store it under a false name or the envelope.
open up a bank account in your own name to increase independency.
things to remember:
you are not obligated to stay with anyone / in any situation where you are emotionally/physically abused no matter how long you’ve known them and the bond you used to have.
no one deserves to be abused. nothing is ever your fault. you’re seen. you are so much more than how you are treated. i love you. you. are. loved.
don’t condition or down play your trauma and experiences. don’t compare yourself to others. no one’s situation is “worse” than another’s — all and any forms of traumatic experiences are equally important and deserve undivided, careful attention.
listen to your gut. if you feel the sudden, most important urge not to enter a room, say the next thought, or that you should leave, do it. don’t hesitate. you can figure out the reason later.
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